Comments on: damaging your life. http://unbreakabler.wordpress.com/2008/08/13/damaging-your-life/ whats meant to be will be. Sat, 23 Aug 2008 12:24:32 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Matt Zavadil http://unbreakabler.wordpress.com/2008/08/13/damaging-your-life/#comment-15 Matt Zavadil Thu, 14 Aug 2008 19:26:08 +0000 http://unbreakabler.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-15 Perhaps the truest test of love is to allow someone to be who they are. ALL OF THEM. Hell, that's not easy even on a good day, but it doesn't change the truth of it. And loving them like that may just mean watching them destroy themselves. Something else to keep in mind is that your love may be one of the few things that person feels through all their numbness. As for you, take care of yourself and don't get too caught up in their drama of destruction. Do what you need to do for you. Like expressing yourself as you did here. It's a gift for yourself and may be for others as well. My love is with you. Perhaps the truest test of love is to allow someone to be who they are. ALL OF THEM. Hell, that’s not easy even on a good day, but it doesn’t change the truth of it. And loving them like that may just mean watching them destroy themselves.

Something else to keep in mind is that your love may be one of the few things that person feels through all their numbness.

As for you, take care of yourself and don’t get too caught up in their drama of destruction. Do what you need to do for you. Like expressing yourself as you did here. It’s a gift for yourself and may be for others as well.

My love is with you.

]]> By: charlottescott http://unbreakabler.wordpress.com/2008/08/13/damaging-your-life/#comment-14 charlottescott Thu, 14 Aug 2008 12:51:38 +0000 http://unbreakabler.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-14 First, love the new look of your blog. Very cute. Second, my heart just wants to open up and take you in, to hold you close and protect you and make this all easier for you. The hard part is that we all live with the reality of who our parents are. They have their stories and their wounds and they unfortunately pass those on to us. The amazingly beautiful thing is that we get to choose our response. Your wisdom and insight to your father and his addictions have become a backbone to your life choices. You are choosing strength instead of weakness. I know how big your heart is and that you have compassion for him and that is the most any of us can do. I had the same relationship with my father. I wanted to love him, his addictions made sure I didn't even really get to know him. It took a lifetime for me to accept myself for who I really am, instead of who I was through his eyes. Alcoholism is a horrible destruction of life. It robs everyone involved from the love that was meant to be. I grieve for you my beautiful daughter, I know too well your pain and I would wipe yours away if I only knew how. Keep being the wise and beautiful woman that you are and you will draw the strength from your life experience. That the doesn't kill you makes you stronger. so they say..... I LOVE YOU. First, love the new look of your blog. Very cute.

Second, my heart just wants to open up and take you in, to hold you close and protect you and make this all easier for you. The hard part is that we all live with the reality of who our parents are. They have their stories and their wounds and they unfortunately pass those on to us. The amazingly beautiful thing is that we get to choose our response. Your wisdom and insight to your father and his addictions have become a backbone to your life choices. You are choosing strength instead of weakness. I know how big your heart is and that you have compassion for him and that is the most any of us can do. I had the same relationship with my father. I wanted to love him, his addictions made sure I didn’t even really get to know him. It took a lifetime for me to accept myself for who I really am, instead of who I was through his eyes. Alcoholism is a horrible destruction of life. It robs everyone involved from the love that was meant to be. I grieve for you my beautiful daughter, I know too well your pain and I would wipe yours away if I only knew how. Keep being the wise and beautiful woman that you are and you will draw the strength from your life experience. That the doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. so they say…..

I LOVE YOU.

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